CREATING PERSONAL EXCELLENCE

The key to creating your personal and business success is to understand yourself and work towards personal mastery – being aware of exactly who we are reflects in every aspect of our personal life, relationships and our business life.

One of my favourite quotes is:

“No man is free who is not a master of himself.” (Epictetus)

Part of my mission in life is to always be working towards being the best I can be in all areas of my life, as well as being an inspiring role model for my family, friends and clients. This is not always easy on those days when life throws a curve ball at you, or you have a challenging situation in relationships or you’re just under the pump and having a bad day. That’s when it takes a lot of self-awareness and self-discipline to stay on track to be your best self.

So, how do we get to know ourselves better and create personal mastery?

Here are a few tips that can help:

  • Have conscious awareness – become aware of your thoughts, because your thoughts determine how you feel, and how you feel will determine how you act.
  • Become aware of our emotional reactions – when you are able to notice how you react to situations on a daily basis you then have the ability to change them in a positive way.
  • Be aware of your attitudes – are you starting every day with an optimistic mindset or are you focusing on the things that are not working out for you.
  • Discomfort is a prerequisite for success – Trying to stay in your comfort zone and letting fear get the best of you will always stop you from being your best self. In order to achieve any worthy goals, you must start realizing that discomfort is a prerequisite for success.
  • Take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you – Even if it seems like it, you are 100% responsible for everything that happens to you. What ever is showing up in your life is a result of the choices you made. Taking responsibility for your choices and your thoughts and actions and make them positive and moving towards your goals and notice how things change for the better.
  • Set aside a specific time each week for personal reflection. Having a consistent weekly review is one of the most powerful ways to better focus your attention, realign your priorities, and make sure you’re making progress towards your goals. Schedule in you diary at least 30 minutes at the end of each week and ask questions, and write down your answers in your journal: What did I learn this week? What did I accomplish? What do I need to improve on? Have I made progress towards my short & long-term goals? What new ideas do I have? What did I learn this week that inspires me?

Become more aware of who you really are and become the master of your destiny!

JUGGLING OUR PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL PRIORITIES

I constantly hear people around me saying, “I’m just too busy”, “I don’t have time to do it all”, “there’s not enough hours in a day”. Does that sound familiar to you?

To live a fulfilling, balanced life we need to be more in conscious control of our habits and lifestyle.  Effective personal management creates freedom.

Having spent 15 years of the first part of my career in professional health care and nursing, I spent a good deal of time with people who were faced with a terminal illness or potentially fatal diagnosis.

The common thread with these people was the realisation that so much of their life had been caught up with doing the urgent things that showed up in life every day, and that they neglected the most important things, which was usually their family, relationships and their health and time out for themselves.

You see, it’s the easiest thing in the world to neglect the important things in your life and give in to the urgent ones.  One of the greatest skills you can ever develop in your life is, not only to tell the two apart, but also to be able to prioritise your time between the two.

Here are a few tips to help you stay focused on the important things in life:

  • Determine what your values in life are – Our values drive our behaviour and our decisions, so being clear about what you value in life will help you to stay on track and make decisions regarding what’s most important to you.
  • Have a clear vision of your future – Having clarity around your long and short-term vision will also allow you to prioritise things that are most important to you.
  • Set goals for all areas of your life. – Keep life balanced by setting goals in all areas of life e.g. family and relationships, health and fitness, finances, business, personal time out and hobbies etc.
  • Spend 15 minutes each day planning – When we plan and prioritise, we control events instead of falling prey to events that control us.  When we plan our most important tasks and events, we reduce the amount of time they take, improve the quality of the results they produce and reduce the stress in our lives.

I want to share with you a thought-provoking excerpt from the famous psychologist and author, Denis Waitley.

You may have heard the story about the analogy of the “circus juggler” to each of us as we try to balance our personal and professional priorities.  I have heard the story repeated by many keynote speakers and have used it in previous books, but have never been able to trace the identity of the original author.

When the circus juggler drops a ball, he lets it bounce and picks it up on the next bounce without losing his rhythm or concentrations.  He keeps right on juggling.  Many times we do the same thing.  We lose our jobs, but get another one on the first or second bounce.  We may drop the ball on a sale, an opportunity to move ahead, or in a relationship, and we either pick it up on the rebound or get a new one thrown in to replace what we just dropped.

However, some of the balls or priorities we juggle don’t bounce.  The more urgent priorities associated with self-imposed deadlines and workloads have more elasticity than the precious, delicate relationships which are as fragile as fine crystal.  Balance involves distinguishing between the priorities we juggle that bounce from the ones labelled “loved ones”, “health” and “moral character” that may shatter if we drop them.

The reason I always ask my seminar attendees to list the benefits of reaching their goals is so they can arrange them in the true order of importance to them, and give them sufficient amount of attention as they juggle them within their time constraints.

Handle your priorities with care.  Some of them just don’t bounce!

SPRING CLEANING!

A great time for no excuses…

September is here and we are all coming out of hibernation, shedding our boots, fleece-lined coats and scarves for something a little lighter, creating a ‘spring in our step’ (well that does depend on the weather as it has been rather changeable lately).

In the light of this new found energy comes a sense of new beginnings, a time to address the old thoughts and beliefs about yourself and your life that you need to let go in order to move forward – an emotional spring-clean if you like.

This season is about making the decision to put yourself first…. Spring cleaning is about personal satisfaction, and a perfect time to refresh.  Cutting out the winter stodges (physically and mentally) together with planning – yes, we’ve heard it all before, your daily exercise routine – how ever small,  there really is nothing like getting the blood pumping through your veins and feeling invigorated.

Look around and ask yourself if your personal, home or workspace inspires you or whether it depresses you? If it’s the latter then replace that stagnant thought and items that bring you down with those positive items or thoughts that pick you up.  Design personal spaces that inspire you!  Set yourself manageable daily goals and take the first step in achieving them.

For me, this winter has been a time of great reflection. Looking at what has been working well and the parts that are not working as I would like and what I would like to change. So changes are on the way as I set new goals and plans.

As a part of that process I have a professional organizer coming in to assist me to de-clutter my office and home so I am looking forward to spring cleaning my other world as I am also doing a spring clean of my inner world.

“A year from now you will wish you had started today”. ~ Karen Lamb

If you would like some inspiration and strategies to declutter and set new goals call me for a coaching session or join in our next Group Coaching/Mentoring Program starting in October.

COMMITMENT – THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN LIFE & BUSINESS

There are only a few key principles to success at anything in life, and one of those is commitment. A true leader commits to their family, their organization and themselves…to be the very best they can be in all areas of their life.

Words of wisdom from the great genius Johann Wolfgang von Goethe ~ writer, artist, athlete, politician and visionary.

“Until one is committed their is hesitancy, a chance to draw back…There is one elementary truth – ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans. This is, that the moment one definitely commits to oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it, BEGIN IT NOW.”

Worth contemplating don’t you think?

In pursuit of a happy, balanced life we all have moments where we reflect on the need to change aspects of our lives where our happiness and needs are not met. Unfortunately in the busy-ness of our lives these thoughts are fleeting, thoughts we hear within our minds and feel with our body, then the moment of our truth is lost when we become distracted or fearful. When we don’t listen to our internal ‘talk’ and take action, notice how over time these thoughts keep coming up, a pattern starts forming.

When we talk about commitment we are not talking about rules of engagement, this goes without saying in the modern world, we are talking about: Commitment to your own self, respecting yourself and forming a contract to address the need to change those parts of yourself or your life that make you unhappy.

The 1 week Challenge

Small steps is the way to go…commit to making your first step by challenging yourself to a 1-week challenge:

  • Ask yourself: “Where am I now?”; “What do I want to change?” and “What is the first step I need to take?”
  • Write out your actions and commitments to start making the changes in your life with clarity and precision – no vagueness or loopholes.
  • Let a friend know about your challenge to keep you accountable.
  • Daily read your actions and commitments, and put pen to notebook and write any further actions you choose to take.
  • Congratulate yourself for committing to take ACTION towards your commitment and creating the changes.

I would love to hear how the challenge went and share your inspiration with my readers.

Imagine having less stress and more peace and happiness

Have you ever noticed when two people in identical, high-stress situations, that one of them gets stressed out and the other one handles the situation with ease and grace?

It’s because of the different ways they internalize what’s going on.  Stress doesn’t exist in the outside world; it just exists inside your head.  It’s up to you which way you choose to perceive it.

Stress is an internal phenomenon.

And remember – stress is not good or bad.  It just IS.  We need a certain amount of stress to motivate us but we need to understand ourselves to know when “too much” is having an adverse effect on our mind and body.

Your reaction to stress can become a habit.  So, as the famous quote by Socrates, “Know thyself”, it is important to become aware of how you respond and react to situations and people so you can make positive changes.

The good news is you can change your habits.

So take charge and be your own boss – make a conscious choice to be happy, relaxed and stay positive by using these five strategies:(I guarantee that if you use them every day, they will make a massive positive difference in your life).

  1. Use the power of your choice – you have the ability to make choices.  Once you realize that you have a choice between being stressed or staying calm and relaxed, you can then create healthy new habits and alternatives to stress.
  2. Choose to create a new meaning about the person or event – your mind labels everything that happens to you, to reduce worry or stress, choose to make up a more positive meaning about the event or person.
  3. Understand what you can and cannot control. Once you accept the fact that you can’t control an event or person, you can take action to change yourself and your thoughts about the situation.
  4. See other viewpoints – imagine the situation if you were standing in the other persons’ shoes, how might you feel?
  5. Learn to let go. Perhaps the hardest of all skills.  One easy way to let go is to take a look around, observe someone else experiencing distress, step out of your world and step into theirs, and then help them.  It is amazing how much better you will feel.

Have a positive and productive week.

A Quick tip to De-Stress

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Here is a quick tip to keep stress levels down and feeling energized everyday.

Have a great week!

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Less Stress, More Success

Having just returned from our Bali Women’s Retreat, I was reminded how easily our stress can sneak up on us with the constant demands of our busy life, and how rewarding it is to take time out to relax and rejuvenate and recharge the batteries.

We all experience stress from time to time. However when stress gets to be too much, it can take its toll on our and health and happiness, so having effective strategies to reduce stress levels are essential in restoring our inner peace, health and wellbeing.

Start today to create daily healthy habits and notice how more relaxed you feel. Here’s a few tips to start you on your way…

  1. Exercise –is a powerful way to reduce stress and can provide an effective release of negative emotions and also decrease ‘stress hormones’ like cortisol and increase endorphins, your body’s ‘feel-good’ chemicals, giving your mood a natural boost.
  2. Eat to stay on top – stress also wears down the immune system, which is why we get sick during challenging times. To counteract this, eat a healthy balanced diet to boost your immune system.
  3. Time for you – everyone needs time to relax and recover from the stresses of the day, so schedule time to do the things you love to do and that make you feel relaxed and rejuvenated.
  4. Simplify your life – simplifying life is a great way to reduce stress, cut out extra commitments that don’t serve you, change relationships that stress you, and change activities that you don’t enjoy. Take stock of what you do in your life that is creating pressure and things that you don’t enjoy and make the necessary changes.
  5. Get organized – being organized is the best way of creating extra time in your life and cutting down stress. Prioritise activities and responsibilities, ensuring you schedule in time for the most important things in your life i.e. family time, you time, exercise etc.

Enjoy creating a stress free week…

Living a life on Purpose

My purpose here is to inspire and motivate you to live a life on purpose and with conscious choice. I will also be sharing tips on leading a life in balance and give you some tools and strategies to create personal mastery and success in your life.

To get started, have you thought about what you want to create this year – do you want it to be different from last year, what else would you like to create…?  If you haven’t thought about this, written it down and are very clear on what you do want to create, there is a good chance you will just get a repeat of last year.

As an individual, when was the last time you sat down and wrote your vision for your life? Do you know what is your life purpose and what brings meaning to your life?

If you are a business owner or a leader in an organisation, when was the last time you felt you were in control and driving forward with passion and enthusiasm and getting the results for yourself and your team.

It is so easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and forget to take time out to recharge your batteries and check in if you are on course or are you just attending to the urgent demands in your personal and business life.

Make a conscious choice now, to schedule in your diary, timeout on a weekly, monthly and yearly basis.  I am flying out tomorrow morning to go to our women’s retreat in Bali which is all about taking time out to relax, rejuvenate and recharge our batteries and have time for self reflection on where we are at now and where we would like to be.(Visit – www.baliretreat.com.au.)  This is something we do twice a year to give women this opportunity.

However, even though I think it’s important to go on a yearly retreat, it is